Mr. Amou Haji”, an 83-year-old Iranian is labelled as the world’s dirtiest man as he has not bathed in 65 years. He has no home, he wanders near the isolated village of Dejgah in the Southern Iranian province of Fars and lives in holes made in the desert outside the village. It is surprising that although the villagers built a hut for him but he chose not to live there. Haji to stay healthy he drinks five litres of water from a rusty oil can every day and he loves to smoke which contains dried cow dung instead of tobacco. Mr. Haji is peacefully living his life and when asked about family, there was no reaction but when asked if he is enjoyed he claims that after renouncing all the pleasures of the world he is very happy with the kind of life he is living and will continue to live as is. He is Happy but can we can he is successful. Media whose job is to ensure real news reached to all corners of world and has huge responsibility of upholding human rights and to keep humanity all above, address Mr. Haji as “World’s Dirtiest Man” and this shows how the World at Large today or to say Society is comparing Success bring Happiness and not Happiness does not bring Success.
I asked someone of this news when I heard and read about him and the answers received by them was “Chi”, “Yuk”, “Failure Salla, Kuch nahi karta hain”, “This is best example when you don’t work or do anything”, “Kitna bimari lekar gumraha hoga pagal”, etc. I was little bit surprised and also unhappy as to who are we to give this remarks and why the hell we get into his domain of his way choosing to live the life. I was wondering that if he is happy in this way of living the life and is peaceful then what the problem. I mean there is various ways to speak on his life that is “He’s living the way he chooses to live without anyone telling him otherwise. There’s an incredible freedom there that few get to experience in life. Do what makes you happy” and if so, is it not correct to say that he is living a very independent life in a way that makes him happy. If he is happy, can we say he is successful? I am sure the moment if I narrate this story to anyone, majority will say NO and on asking the reasons for NO, many replies would have come and one unlikely but may come reply is that “he is happy in his life but he never made his life to help others and in no way he can be taken as successful”. Well, if so, I believe If he is happy (I am assuming that there is no story of forcefulness for him to stay like this, which does not seems so), he is purely successful in what he has done. This bring to the question, whether a person who is successful shall be happier or happier persons are always successful
I am aware of someone who is at present aged 40 years and when one sees what is he doing, I am sure public in majority will say that he has not done anything in his life. His daily routine is to the work for around 5 hours and gives most of the time to his parents and is just not attracted towards having luxurious life-style and is somehow enjoying his life and earns what is more than enough to him. On asking the answer as to why you have restricted your career to this small earning whereas his degree and experience is too much to which his answer was “I want to spend my time with Parents and family and what I earn is more than for me to make family happy and this is where I enjoy and has all happiness. From commercial point of view, he is not successful but he is doing what leads to his happiness and for him he is successful.
In another factual illustration, I know someone who is from middle class and is very much attached to a religion and to do something for religion and it seems that he is utmost happy to devote his majority of time in religious work rather than taking care of business. I have been known to him since good years and in many years, he has been giving practically majority of time in doing religious work and the fact is that today he is holding more than 80 Whatsapp group as Admin and being on post in many or to say all NGO/organisation. I have to mention here that I have hardly seen him in his shop but mostly via whatsapp images of some or other religious work. I was just trying to understand why he is wasting the time so much and this work he can later but why now and why he is making a mess of his own life. I actually asked him whether you feel motivated to do all this free work and nothing in turn monetary wise, the answer was Yes and another statement came was “mujhe bahu acha lagta hain karne main aur Khushi milti hain”. Does this person is successful or not?, no idea but this again brings to the question, whether a person who is successful shall be happier or happier persons are always successful
This question actually brought me and myself to be asked for “whether I am happy or successful” to which I was not able to reply and as it is very easy that being human we claim to know all the answer, I asked simple query to myself “Am I Happy”, My reply (no guesses), Yes I am really happy” and there were many thoughts crossing my mind and a pause came and then I asked another query “whether I am successful” my reply was “I am successful but not enough” and why I asked myself, “why” first was “have to get fame for talent I possess and thoughts were just passing by and there was no end” and then I was wondering, If I am happy then why not successful and successful then why I said no at first instance. Well there can be many theories to this, but one thing is sure that success shall not be stopped and it shall be upgraded all the time but the question is till when?
These bring me to the query as to “What is more important, Happiness or Success?”
According to psychologist Daniel Gilbert, “Happiness is the ultimate goal of virtually all the decisions we make in life”. The real truth is that happiness is difficult to measure and Success is mostly judged externally or by comparison to other people. Happiness is a goal that many people aspire to. Most people also have a strong desire to be successful in life and they tend to believe that through this success they will automatically become happier but the fact is that Happiness is a precursor to success, not the other way around.
Is working hard
Is the race
Is having everyone know your name
Is being right
Is never easy
Is late hours
Is pursuing your dreams
Is doing what you love
Is going the distance
Then, HAPPINESS is:
Is loving the work
Is the finish line
Is having the right people know your name
Is being true
Will never feel difficult
Is all day
Is living your dreams
Is loving what you do
Is enjoying the destination
If You Don’t Know WHY, You Can’t Know HOW
When Motivated by WHY, Success Just Happens
If You Follow Your WHY, Then Others Will Follow You
Before, I end with the assumption that You will do in what bring you the most happiness and not run after achieving success as without happiness there is no success, let me state what Acharya Tulsi quoted on Secret of Success, which is as under:
“The great secret of success in life lies in concentration. Concentration is necessary not only in the field of spiritual practice but in all walks of life = education, art, commerce and science etc. The force that lies in concentration can never be there when it is divided.
Acharya Tulsi was of the opinion that when a devotee is dedicated whole-heartedly to his Goal, he gets every-thing. In regard to Goal, You can read my other Blog on “Why Goal is utmost relevance in life?”
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